I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. Nelson Mandela

Bravery and courage are qualities of a great person…

Let’s talk about Bravery. Do you have them? Do you lack bravery?

Simply, Bravery & Courage creates greatness. Lack of courage can limit you from doing things and living a fulfilling life. Without courage, you’ll suffer more. Your life can be great if you have bravery. Have you ever felt that lack of courage is holding you back from reaching your dreams and goals? When you think of reaching your dreams, do you feel that you don’t have what it takes? Bravery is an advanced skill in life to use to overcome a lack of self-confidence. But, what kind of courage do you actually need?
If you feel that you lack courage, don’t assume that your feelings are based on personal inadequacy. There are lots of reasons why courage is an issue in life and many of them relate to conditioning. Society teaches people to have doubt in their hearts. All of this is part of the conditioning process, designed to make you dependent rather than independent.

How to Build Courage
The good thing about lack of bravery is that you can learn to be braver. Proof of this can be found in any instance of overcoming fear. But having courage doesn’t mean that you need to ignore fear because that is ignorant. Courage is all about finding the strength to move forward with the presence of fear. Learning how to be courageous doesn’t mean that you’re not afraid. Simply, it’s learning to do things despite the fear that you feel. Here are some tips you can use to overcome your lack of bravery.

Don’t Fight Your Fear
Being courageous means doing things despite the presence of fear.

Fear is the body’s natural response to the brain’s flight response. The brain sends cortisol to the nervous system causing the body to go into a state of hyper-drive. Bravery, fearfulness, and courage are learned behaviors. It is based on your brain’s chemistry and strengthened by the world that surrounds you. If you fight fear, it will become stronger. If you suppress negative emotions, they will only heighten the negative emotions and fear. The more you avoid them, the more they become stronger. On the contrary, exposing yourself to your fears can make you train your brain to be desensitized to them and allow you to face them easier. Do not hesitate as this will only result in excuses that will stop you from facing your fears. If you are about to ask someone on a date, catch a spider, or jump out of an airplane, do it without hesitation. After you have dealt with your fear, you can reinforce your success by treating yourself to a reward. This can be a break from interacting with other people or a physical treat.

Talk to Your Family and Friends about Your Fear
Talking to someone about your fears can help you articulate the source of your fear and realize that it really isn’t as scary as they thought. You can pay a licensed therapist a visit if you wish to seek professional advice. If not, there are websites and online forums where you can talk about your fears anonymously.

Be Mindful
Mindfulness means that you must be present in the world, both outer and inner. It can help you train your brain to deal with your fears in more effective ways. Mindfulness can be learned by doing meditation. Meditation can make you aware of both your mental and exterior state.

When you feel that you are overwhelmed by fear, simply remember the practices that you have learned from meditation and mindfulness and this will keep you stronger than your fear.

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
The mere thought of stepping out from your comfort zone takes a lot of courage, and doing so can lead to anxiety. But, this is one of the best ways to learn courage. If you keep on doing the same thing every day in a routine, you are in your comfort zone. But, if you do things that you don’t normally do, it can help you cope with the unexpected things in life and this is the time when lots of fear comes over you.

Seeking Permission

Early in your life, you learned to follow rules and discovered that there are circumstances where you must obtain permission to do the things that you want to do. This begins at home when you need your parent’s permissions to stay up past midnight, to go out with your friends, and so on. However, now you are all grown up and you don’t really need to get permission for many things.
But occasionally you will still need to seek permission for something. You may need permission to arrive late for school or work or to participate in extracurricular activities.
Your life changes once you reach adulthood. However, you’re still surrounded by situations where you need to seek permission and get approval to do the things you want. During your university or college years, you will need approval to enroll in your chosen path of study. At the workplace, you will need other people’s approval to leave early, arrive late, or to be absent.

Stop Asking for Permission
The permission-seeking processes exists also in people’s lives who need licensing. In such situations, you need to seek formal approval to engage in activities like getting married, driving your own car, owning a dog, building a garden shed, and so on. The world the surrounds you has made you accustomed to seeking permissions for activities that made it difficult to recognizing the occasions that do not need the approval of others. In fact, there are times when outside consent is not needed. People need to find ways to give themselves the permission they need to do something.

This can be the case when we use you age to give yourself permission to do certain things or activities. People also use the number of faults in their current workplace to give themselves consent to leave and look for new employment that interests them more. People also use their family obligations or the demands of their work to give themselves permission to turn down invitations for events that they don’t care to attend.
It is highly important that you recognize the situations that you don’t need outside approval to do. Go ahead and feel free to proceed. It is doing things you want without seeking permission from others that lifts your confidence and increases your enjoyment of life.

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.

Nelson Mandela

 You do not need permission to live the life you dream of. In reality, you are the only one who can give approval to your life anyways. You are responsible for the majority of things that have had happened in your life. If you complain about your current job, who do you think applied for it? If you want to quit your job, who do you think will decide to do it? There are great doors and opportunities out there waiting for you, but only if you choose to take them. You can blame your family obligations, workloads, and other things in your life for not reaching your goals, but it’s actually you that’s getting in your way.
You have been taught to submit yourself to living an ordinary life while hiding your true self. But, living this way will not allow you to enjoy life. You only live once, so you need to do what you want and what you think is right for you. It’s time to wake up and live the way you want.

There are two ways which you can live life. You can spend the rest of your life complaining about how the world seems to be against you, about your job, about how things could have been better if you have spent more time on it or more money.
Or, you can start taking responsibility for your life and begin to actually start living. What if you quit your job and try something different or what if you start your own business instead of dealing with your boss that sucks?
Everything is up to you. It’s your life, so you need to have fun living it. After all, the only permission that you need is from yourself.

By Madami Joshua

Chukukere Amarachi is an Artistic Nigerian Social Impact Advocate, Blogger, Communications & Media Enthusiast, Aspiring Social Entrepreneur and Trainer who promotes and believes in sustainable livelihoods for all. She seeks to inspires a global audience with her voice, business, community development projects and advocacy messages. Her Goal Building an enabling environment for great potentials to thrive. She can be really goofy and playful, is attracted to exotic dishes and locations and wouldn't mind owning a private jet, oh yeah! She's a strong believer and follower of Jesus Christ. For her people who cook, create, explore and travel have a spot in my heart ♥

2 comments on “DO YOU LACK BRAVERY

  1. This is a wonderful piece! We should seize the bull by its horn and very much try to get rid of our fears. Please check out
    Thank you


  2. Indeed, thanks Komolafe.


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