Over these past few weeks I’ve come to an understanding that people who you place in a certain regard or way, most times don’t reciprocate that motion.


I wonder why it is so? I was really bothered because I know how much I believe in people and try to respect people in the best way I can.

Truth be told I felt hurt, naa, not really, I felt pained, like disappointed and bad kinda pain. I couldn’t understand or make happen why it was so. Where they too busy, or did they not just understand that I very them in a high manner? Did they forget so soon how I appreciate them?

I prayed to God, I talked to Him cos I really don’t know who else to lament to, lol!


That was the word that popped up! So yes, I expected them to reciprocate the kinda affection I give them, the kinda preference I give them. But I did forget, or I do that they’re not like me.

When I first started worshiping at COZA there’s a word I can never forget that Pst. Biodun said, which is, You give honor not because that person is honorable, but because its who you are, and while you’re at it, never expect them to reciprocate it because it might not be who they are, so just give anyway.

“You actually can’t give what you don’t have girl”, I keep telling my self. But at least there are some people, say family, that one expects some certain kinda commitment and loyalty, but then again the Holy Spirit made me understand that I set too high expectations and when those aren’t in place, it makes me feel disturbed.

So yes, this is me writing about it, and still feeling a little, well bothered, but then, I really have to stop expecting a lot from people. But should I stop giving, nope. Should I stop honoring them, nope. But then I’m gonna put a caution over it, not relenting in doing good, but guarding my heart and emotions from being toiled with by the enemy because of someone’s inability to take me seriously! I won’t let this stop me, its even better I understand it now than in the future who knows what God is stopping from experiencing….

I think you should, too. It would save you, us, from a lot of stress…..

So let’s talk cos it’s #talktuesday – Who has got their expectations shattered?

Chukukere Amarachi is an Artistic Nigerian Social Impact Advocate, Blogger, Communications & Media Enthusiast, Aspiring Social Entrepreneur and Trainer who promotes and believes in sustainable livelihoods for all. She seeks to inspires a global audience with her voice, business, community development projects and advocacy messages. Her Goal Building an enabling environment for great potentials to thrive. She can be really goofy and playful, is attracted to exotic dishes and locations and wouldn't mind owning a private jet, oh yeah! She's a strong believer and follower of Jesus Christ. For her people who cook, create, explore and travel have a spot in my heart ♥

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